Who Do You Think You Are?
Written by Bruce Williams
To ask the question “who do you think you are” might seem a bit confrontational. It certainly sounds like a challenge when used with an incredulous or accusatory tone. Nonetheless, it’s a valid question when asked in a truly inquisitive way.
So, who do you think you are?
Are you the person others think you are?
The personality we project might be one suitable to the situation you find yourself in at the time, but possibly not true to your core values.
I was a broadcaster for years. I worked with people who became someone else once the mic was turned on or the red light was lit on the TV camera. There were and always will be radio personalities who exaggerate their manner of speaking, use a whole vocal range or impose an affectation to their manner of speaking. Some become borderline sing-songy or over-project with the voice they put on.
TV presenters sometimes do the same with melodramatic facial gestures, eyebrows rising and darting, by over pronouncing words and phrases for what they feel is a dramatic or comedic effect. In other words, they are all doing a form of acting, assuming a role that is not their true nature. The present as someone else. I like to think I didn’t do that (at least not much), because I felt trying to be someone else was too much work. It’s also not genuine behavior, not a true example of your real character. It’s fake and phoney and often harmful to credibility. I also felt that I was a good and acceptable person by nature and didn’t need to offer the appearance of being someone else.
The giants of the broadcast industry are usually people who exude that air of natural confidence. They are credible and reliable. Comfortable. They are effortlessly natural.
The same applies to any business situation. Honesty is always a fundamental necessity in any business relationship. Are you presenting yourself as someone to be trusted, who is honest and genuine, reliable, comfortable simply by being yourself and not trying to be someone else?
What if you encounter a business associate in a circumstance where your behavior doesn’t match what that person thinks is your personality?
It doesn’t take practice to be genuine and honest, but it does take determination to be constantly and confidently at ease with yourself.
Let others see the real you. It’s easy to be you. You’re the only person who can do it.